Find dig selv og din stemme i Dubai

– og opnå det du ønsker, mens du er her.

En af de hurtigste genveje til at kommunikere frit og powerfuldt er at kende sig selv, sine dybeste ønsker og vigtigste grænser rigtig godt.

Det handler ikke om at være eller blive perfekt, men om at være hel – og kunne rumme sig selv og alt det man er. Også de sider af sig selv man måske ikke lige umiddelbart er så stolt af…

Det handler i det hele taget om at være i INTEGRITET med sig selv. Det handler om at turde vise verden hvem man i sandhed er.

Integritet dækker over mange ting, bl.a. det at være ærlig overfor sig selv. At erkende hvad man brænder for, og hvad man egentlig ikke ønsker at bruge sin dyrebare tid på.

Integritet handler også om at pleje balancen i voksenlivet mellem alle de forskellige livsområder og gøremål der uvægerligt er – ligegyldigt hvor økonomisk priviligeret man måtte være. Det er f.eks også derfor at expats i Dubai kan undre sig over ikke at føle sig tilfredse, når de nu tilsyneladende “har det hele”.

Hvis man ikke ved om man er i integritet med sig selv kan det hjælpe at tjekke om man har nogen af disse tegn på at være UDE af integritet:

  • En nagende følelse af at der mangler noget i ens liv.
  • En fornemmelse af at der er en dimension af glæde man ikke har adgang til.
  • Relations-problemer med sin partner, familie eller børn.

Den gode nyhed er, at arbejdet med at komme i integritet med sig selv oftest er berigende, fascinerende og inspirerende! Så snart man begynder at vende blikket indad og fokusere på at højne sin integritet vil man opleve at få det bedre. Ikke bare med sig selv, men man vil også få nemmere ved at håndtere den “ydre verden”. Det vil føles rarere at lave sit arbejde og daglige pligter. Det vil blive mindre problemfyldt at være sammen med andre mennesker og udtrykke sig frit – og slippe godt fra det.

Når det bliver en vane at træffe valg der er 100% i integritet med sig selv og sine værdier, vil man opnå den indre ro, tryghed og tilfredshed de fleste drømmer om.

Det sker fordi integritet betyder at man igen kan stole på sig selv. Man kan tydeligt mærke sig selv, man har givet slip på en hvilken som helst kvælende skam, selvbebrejdelse eller fortids begrænsende historie om hvem man er – eller ikke tror man kan være.

Et menneske i integritet

  • føler sig fri og tryg vel vidende at hun/han er “på rette vej”, for “den rette vej” kan kun defineres ud fra den enkelte persons indre verden.
  • ved at der med sikkerhed bliver taget hånd om egne ønsker og behov, fordi ingen andre har det ansvar.
  • kan sætte sunde grænser på en respektfuld måde og værdsætter også andre menneskers “ja” og “nej” ligeværdigt.
  • bruger sine følelser som værdifuld information og lader dem ikke tage magten fra en. Hun/han ved at man harfølelser, men de er ikke alt hvad man er, blot en del af en, og et vigtigt indre pejle-system.

I 10 år har jeg været passioneret underviser i Integrative Coaching processer, fordi de er effektive og lærerige. Jeg har guidet mange interessante mennesker til, trygt og sikkert, at finde tilbage på sporet af personlig integritet.  I et Integrative Coaching forløb vil man opleve sit mod og styrke vokse, i takt med at man

  • er ærlig overfor sig selv omkring sine drømme og ønsker. Også selvom man måske ikke kan forestille sig hvordan det vil kunne lade sig gøre at opnå dem.
  • finder modet til at droppe konfliktskyhed (det betaler sig ikke at tage over-hensyn for at undgå ballade – hverken for sig selv eller en anden part).
  • giver slip på unødige sammenligninger med andre – med mindre de inspirerer en. Enhver person er unik, skal passe godt på sig selv og droppe overdreven selvkritik.
  • lærer at elske alle sider af dig selv – også dem man før hadede! Selv de sider man før dømte som dårlige, er værdigfulde, hvis man får et sundt forhold til dem. F.eks: Hvordan vil man vide om grænser bliver overskredet, hvis man ikke har evnen til at føle frustration og vrede? Hvordan vil man vide man elsker nogen og gerne ville bruge tid på relationen, hvis man ikke kan føle jalousi eller frygt for at miste? Hvordan ville man vide hvilket arbejde man helst vil have, hvis man ikke kan føle misundelse over hvad andre er “så heldige” at lave?

Dubai-livet er en strålende mulighed for at komme i integritet med sig selv!

Med kærlige, medfølende og heppende hilsner,

Lulu Mahaini

Integrative MasterCoach, PhD

www.lulumahaini.com

www.thefordinstitute.com/lulumahaini

NEW Blueprint Coaching Group starting Jan 24th 2018!

Hi!

How has this past year been for you?

Do you want to come along when we focus on staying in our “highest self” in the coming year – in the January 24th coaching group!?

The powerful format of emotional education and mental training I will be guiding the group through has proven very effective over the years. I learned it at The Ford Institute, USA, and now I am going into my 10th year of teaching it to others!

Hope you would also like to be able to support yourself (and through that your loved ones too) in the best possible way in the new year!

To sign up simply email lulu@mahaini.dk (sign up today – only 10 spaces in this group)

 

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Recent Success Stories

It’s been a busy last few months of 2016. Two of my amazing mentor groups and some private clients have finished their current courses in Dubai and I wanted to share some of their success stories.

These inspiring ladies have reached their goals, which span from becoming an exhibiting artist to finding new job opportunities and generally being more comfortable in their own skin.

I have become a happier and more content person.
Tanja

Lulu has helped me to become specific about my priorities and thereby I’ve found more balance and reached the goals that I set myself.
Ingvill

Check out more of my latest Success Stories.

Fascinating what inner work can do.

I’d love to hear from you to see how I can inspire you to have your best year yet in 2017.

Get in touch today!

Love

Lulu x

What does Integrative Coaching or being in Integrity really mean?

Integrative coaching is a method of coaching that aims to help you become totally in integrity with yourself.

When you are in integrity with yourself you are your own best friend – you support yourself rather than self-sabotaging. You know who you are to the core.

You know:

  • Your soul’s desires
  • Where your healthy boundaries are
  • What you like
  • What you don’t like

You can trust your self implicitly. If you commit yourself to something you will follow through, but at the same time you will avoid overcommitting yourself so you can live up to your own expectations.

When you are in integrity with yourself, you stand strong no matter what happens and regardless of whom you interact with. You know how to support yourself and what truly makes you happy.

You have the courage to do what needs to be done even when it’s difficult because you know it’s in everybody’s highest interest in the long run.

Contact Lulu today  and start your journey to get into Integrity with yourself.

Her Inner Artist Paints Again

When one of my coaching clients created this amazing painting as part of her Healing Your Heart Process, I asked her if I could share her breakthrough as inspiration for others (thank you Asmita for saying yes!)

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After years of not painting (even though it was always something she loved) Asmita began to apply what she learned about supporting herself to trust her inner wisdom and take steps towards what she loves. She was courageous and caring enough to start painting again.

I will never stop being fascinated by people who are willing to do their inner work – allowing them to show us who they are and shine in the outer world!

Keep up the great work Asmita!

Writing Group Inspiration

Having recognized the frustration, pain and low energy I often feel when I am not actively engaged in an exciting, creative project – I decided to take two action steps:

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1) I started working on this blog.

2) I found and joined a writing group through Dubai International Writing Centre.

– and as always happens when I take action on something I am passionate about: I immediately felt better and was filled with a great sense of energy!

I met with four inspiring lady writers at a cafe’ in Dubai and as it turned out the five of us came from five different countries – I love that about Dubai! And – oh my – could we talk…about writing, being a woman, work and life in general.

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We had only met once before and for some of us it was the first time – but meeting about a common topic we love: writing – meant that we instantly connected and ENJOYED ourselves. And that gives me (and I trust them, too) the energy and inspiration to write the next piece… Like this blog post for example 🙂

  • What do you love doing?
  • Which action step can you take this week that would inspire you?

Welcome to my blog!

Welcome to my blog about the wonders of human behaviour and the kind of habits, beliefs and secrets that can create limitations for us.

I am so fascinated with the positive effects that working with our shadows can have for us that I made it my coaching job years ago and now part of my blog, too.

When we have the curiosity and willingness to listen to our own inner wisdom and embrace all that we are (anyway): The good, the bad, the perfect, and the imperfect – then we set ourselves free to create the kind of joy, peace and inspiration we might be searching for.

This blog is also about my passion for family life, books and art – and all other things that support me living an inspired life. My wish and intention with my blog is it will inspire you, too!

I hope you will be generous with your comments, so we can connect and share our thoughts.

With love and appreciation,

Lulu